Marijuana and the “Screw Its”

By John Reilly, LCSW, NCPsyA, Executive Director

With legalization trending, there is a growing perception that marijuana is harmless and no different than alcohol. Parents need to know and discuss the dangers of smoking pot, and adolescents need to know that this drug is not harmless when it comes to achieving their goals and being prepared to handle life’s challenges. Parents must send a clear message that they will not tolerate marijuana use.

As a therapist I often meet parents who want the best for their kids; parents spend a lot of time, money and energy making sure their kids have every possible opportunity. When I hear that these same parents tolerate marijuana use, I am struck by the paradox. How could parents with such dreams for their children put those dreams in jeopardy by allowing this sabotaging behavior?

I can only conclude that these parents either don’t think marijuana is that bad or they don’t feel that they can really do anything about their children using the drug. Quite often it’s the thought that marijuana is benign that leads to parental inaction. With increasing public support for legalization, marijuana users will feel their arguments for marijuana use are stronger than ever. Is there an effective argument against marijuana use?

Here are two classic arguments against marijuana use that, although true, really don’t work. (That said, tell them anyway.)

1. Marijuana is a gateway drug. True, but that won’t convince a teenager or young adult that using pot is dangerous. Although most users of harder drugs first used pot, there are many pot users who never go on to other drugs. Most teenagers think they are impervious to moving on to harder drugs.

2. It could trigger a psychotic episode. Yes—for someone predisposed to serious psychiatric disorders, depression or panic. Adolescents aren’t often influenced by this argument, but parents should be.

A much stronger argument against pot lies in a phenomenon involved with chronic marijuana users that I call the “screw its.” This was best defined by one of our Sage In-District therapists, Heather Wombough, as “goals, desires, and plans that were important while sober get pushed aside for the immediate gratification of using marijuana.” Procrastination is an immediate result of being high. Unfortunately, the longer one smokes, the more that procrastination and redefining of priorities become embedded as a way of life. “Screw it” becomes the convenient mantra of the chronic pot user.

It’s not that people who chronically use marijuana don’t have goals; they do. But chronic use produces a complacency that kills perseverance. This leads to something related to the screw its, the “used to’s”:

“I used to play sports.” “I used to do well in school.” “I used to have a lot of interests.” “I used to . . .” Many chronic pot users will deny that marijuana has any thing to do with the “used to’s.” Instead they will blame a coach, teacher, a situation, anything but the pot use.

Marijuana’s medicinal uses should not be discounted. It does help with many ailments and pain management. However, and this is important, using pot to relieve the pain of being in a negative situation is a serious problem. I’ll say it again: using pot to relieve the pain of being in a negative situation IS A SERIOUS PROBLEM. The pain of a negative situation can be an important motivator to help find a better solution. Numbing the discomfort also numbs our motivation for change.

Learning to change and adapt is one of the most important developmental tasks of adolescence. Other important tasks include: goal setting and planning, dealing with negative experiences, coping with adversity, and delay of gratification. Mastering these tasks is essential. Unfortunately, if marijuana and the complacency it induces are part of one’s adolescent life, these goals are not fully met.

The avid pot user will counter: “Pot is not addictive or as dangerous as other drugs.” Yes, when compared to heroin or cocaine, marijuana is not as physically addictive. Once a person becomes addicted to an opiate such as heroine or oxycodone the goal of use is not just to get high, but to not get sick. Cocaine and opiate addiction become all-consuming and the detrimental effects of this type of use become obvious. These drugs tend to ruin lives quickly. Pot ruins lives slowly.

One’s life doesn’t fall apart as rapidly or as dramatically as it does with some of the more physically addictive drugs. Therein lies the real danger—the effects of chronic marijuana are gradual but life-changing. The shift in attitude, the “screw its” that accompany chronic pot use are the real danger. Chronic pot use will allow a person to feel OK about staying at home with his or her parents after dropping out of school or quitting a job.

The “screw its” are at the root of the flatline in growth. Living at home and making minimum wage is fine when one is 20 years old since many peers are in the same position. When you start hitting 25, 30, 35 and are still at home making a little bit of money, it should be obvious that something is wrong. I know more than a few people in their mid 30’s, mid 40’s and even mid 50’s who are back or still living at home with their parents with no real careers. What do they all have in common? Marijuana use starting in their teenage years. Their lives didn’t fall apart like someone who does other drugs, but because no disaster happened they failed to realize that the situation in which they find themselves IS a disaster. What allows them to feel OK while in this situation? Marijuana use.

There will be onslaught of pro-marijuana messages over the next few months. Marijuana advocates are very good at presenting all of the positive attributes of pot but they don’t tell the whole story. As parents and professionals, the “screw its” are part of the story that we need to tell and retell.

 

One thought on “Marijuana and the “Screw Its”

  1. Lynne Crawford says:

    John,
    I really appreciated this article. It is well stated and makes an excellent distinction between marijuana and other drugs and their effects. Thanks.

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